What happened to the casual drop in at home? People would be driving past on their way home from something, see the turn off to Suburb X and say “Let’s see if Meowmie is home!” Next thing, there’d be a familiar car in the driveway, and a chance to have coffee with old friends.
Nowadays we have only 3 or 4 friends who do that. I think that with the compression of life’s activities, whether they be work or leisure related, our time at home is precious and the fact that people don’t drop in most likely shows that they respect your leisure.
Of course, the alternative reasons for the decline in drop ins are:
– They don’t want to see you running around doing the cleaning on the weekend
– You might be in bed in your pyjamas
– … or not in your pyjamas
– You might end up being asked to do chores with the family (happened with my family sometimes!)
– There will be seething resentment from the unsolicited hosts at the time ticking by while being forced into civility and conviviality.
– It takes extra petrol to travel there.
Yes, we had drop ins this weekend. Yes, I ended up several hours behind in what I’d planned to do that day, but the inconvenience and extra work were outweighed by the chance to catch up with friends.