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At this point in the school term, I could do with a holiday

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Posted by on March 30, 2012 in children, Motherhood

 

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Selfish dads brought into the equation

A while ago I wrote about Dr Barry Walters who claimed older mothers were ‘selfish’ for having children later in life, complete with the mothers’ possible health problems and complications.

I mentioned that it’s not one sex alone – what about the men?

Today I read an article that also asks “Where are the dads?” Damn fine question.

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/where-are-dads-in-the-age-debate-20111031-1mrdb.html

 
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Posted by on October 31, 2011 in Article, children, Motherhood

 

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Older mums – a bit more

I wrote an earlier response here to a WA professor’s declaration that older mothers are selfish for a variety of reasons.

One thing that has come back again and again to me from friends, older mothers and those who have not had the opportunity to become mothers, is that there’s a disconnect in some people’s lives between one person wanting to have children, and their partner not wanting children, or not wanting to settle down.

I was interested to read an article today by Sara Holton, Jane Fisher and Heather Rowe that asserts that women delaying having children for selfish reasons in order to pursue personal ambitions or hedonistic activities such as travel are not supported by the evidence.

The article is based upon To have or not to have? Australian women’s childbearing desires, expectations and outcomes by the above women in JOURNAL OF POPULATION RESEARCH DOI: 10.1007/s12546-011-9072-3. I have the article here on my screen (the joys of access to a university library – thank you).

From the news article:

[T]he selfish, career-focused woman who chooses not to have children or delays childbearing is a myth. Women are not helped by the accusations that have been directed at them in recent weeks.

Women would benefit from public policies that are more sensitive to and address the barriers they face in having children.

In addition to the welcome recent improvements in maternity benefits, such sensitive public policies could include education for men about female fertility and the risks to their partner’s health of postponing childbearing.

Other initiatives could include flexible repayment options to permit suspension of higher-education debts while women provide unpaid care for dependent young children, and maximising housing affordability.

Many women would have more children if they could and if circumstances allowed. Women reported a main barrier was their partner’s reluctance to have a child, or another child.

Given that, I feel it is irresponsible for pundits and researchers to yell at ‘older mothers’ for being ‘selfish’ and having children later in life.

 
 

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You’re an older mum? Shame! You’re selfish!

Well, that’s what Dr Barry Walters says.

“I see many, many women with diabetes, high blood pressure and all sorts of medical problems and, of course, the older the woman is, the more likely she’s got medical problems,” he said. […]

But that’s just the start of it. You see, that means the older mum’s offspring will have to look after an elderly mother when they are starting out in adult life.

“They (their children) are starting out in life, having a family, working, getting mortgages and have to deal with geriatric parents,” he said. “It’s just not fair.” […]

“I’m looking at 20 years down the track. We’ve got 20 year olds with mothers who have had heart attacks, strokes and are on dialysis for kidney failure for diabetes.”

Dr Walters, perhaps you should be having a word with the “Selfish Fathers” who can’t commit to a marriage with children until they’re in their late 30s because they have spent a couple of decades thinking that some hotter, better woman will turn up, or who thinks that kids are a millstone round their neck or will drain their savings or get in the way of them partying.

Why am I an older mother? Because I was on medication for quite a few years after I was married that had serious implications for any foetus I might carry. I was sensible and chose to not get pregnant while there was a chance of that happening. Crazy, I know. It had nothing to do with how much we wanted a child or how much money we’d saved or how many overseas trips we’d taken. It was a health matter.

 
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Posted by on October 4, 2011 in Motherhood, the mummy race

 

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Commuting makes mums mad

 

 

 

http://www.elsevier.com/wps/find/journaldescription.cws_home/505560/description

 

 

 

Jennifer Roberts | Robert Hodgson | Paul Dolan
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It’s driving her mad: gender differences in the effects of commuting on psychological health Journal of Health Economics  

doi:10.1016/j.jhealeco.2011.07.006

 

 

 

 
 

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Truth as told by cats

funny pictures - momma's hugz makz eberythin in the worl bedder
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Posted by on May 9, 2011 in cats, Motherhood

 

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Happy Mother’s Day!

To every mum who is flat out and exhausted.

To every mum who has to double-check her clothes before leaving the house to make sure there isn’t baby vomit anywhere.

To every mum who finds Lego blocks in her handbag instead of lipstick.

To every mum who has given up things she enjoyed to make sure there are enough things for her children.

To every mum who has made hard decisions.

To every mum who makes a budget and loses sleep over it.

To each mother who has to deal with these things, I wish you a happy day, finding some small happiness in the everyday things that come your way, strength to deal with the busy-ness of being a mum, and hope for the future. God bless you.

 
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Posted by on May 8, 2011 in Motherhood

 

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